Don’t Bring Up Mistakes of the Past. A good rule in working out differences is to refrain from being “hysterical” and “historical” (bringing up past forgiven grievances) with each other. Think: “will this help or hurt” your marriage before you say it. YOU might feel better for having said it, but at what cost? “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.“ Ephesians 4:29. Neglect the Whole World Rather Than Each Other. We may think our spouse can put up with neglect for “good reasons.” But don’t be so sure. The divorce courts are filled with such cases. Think about it. What does it benefit you if you get all or most of your “to-do list” accomplished but your marriage relationship fails because of neglect? Learn to do just the urgent tasks so that you have time for your partner. Never Go to Sleep with an Argument Unsettled. If you’re not able to resolve it at that time, then either resolve it then and there, or re-approach the problem the next day. But don’t go to bed stewing about it either. Agree to leave the situation alone that night. And then re-approach it the next day with a fresher approach. Compliment Your Spouse at least once in a day Compliment your spouse on things you admire about him or her. And don’t take it for granted that your words are superfluous. It’s a simple matter to say such things as: ‘You did a good job’; ‘I love the way you make people feel welcome when they come to our home’; ‘I appreciate what a hard worker you are’; ‘You’re so loving with the kids.’ So, in addition to a laugh a day, give your spouse a compliment every day.” (Jeannette & Robert Lauer). Never Meet Without an Affectionate Welcome. “Kiss me again and again, your love is sweeter than wine.“ (Song of Solomon 1:2) “Greet one another with a holy kiss.“ (2 Corinthians 13:12). It’s a great way to leave the house in the morning and to come home in the evening. Enjoy in Every Moment That God Has Given You Together. Embrace each other every moment you are together rather than taking them for granted. There are so many widows and widowers today who live in the “if only’s” of regret that they didn’t do more celebrating when their loved ones were alive. “A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with some you hate.“ (Proverbs 15:17). If You Have a Choice Between Making Yourself or Your Mate Look Good, Choose Your Mate. “Have the same attitude as that of Christ Jesus…” Forgive your partners when they offend you. In the covenant of marriage, God asks two self-willed sinners to come together and become one flesh —not in body only, but in spirit, in attitude, in communication, in love. It is a lifetime challenge.” “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you“ (Colossians 3:13). Don’t Use Faith, The Bible, or God as a Hammer. Let not your faith or religion occupy a higher position in your life than your spouse. People run from hammers; so, will your spouse. Let Love Be Your Guidepost. “Love is patient and kind. It is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and keeps no record of when it has been wronged.” (1 Corinthians 13:4-5).