Confidence in Your Appearance Don’t worry about other people’s impressions of you, what you look like, or how you dress. Be yourself and who God made you to be. That’s the most important thing we need to know and believe. God made each of us the way we are. That doesn’t mean we are perfect or there’s no room for growth. It simply means we don’t need to be someone else. We are all uniquely and wonderfully made. It means you like your body, desire to take care of it, and dress according to your age. Confidence in Your Decisions Making quick decisions without thinking things through is a sign of immaturity. Impulse buying a new car, planning a big surprise for your kids without checking in with your wife first, or consistently changing family plans is the wrong kind of confidence in decision-making. Being confident in your decisions is about taking the time to do the research and communicating with your spouse to get her involved. Spontaneous trips and surprise gifts are still OK from time to time, but they should not create worry or anxiety for your wife. Confidence in Your Feelings Emotional intelligence is about being able to pinpoint your emotions and choose how to respond to them. A husband who cannot control his emotions or is easily angered or overly sensitive will have trouble communicating with his spouse. To build confidence in marriage, it takes a willingness to practice emotional intelligence. The next time you find yourself in an argument with your wife or child, take long pauses before you speak, asking yourself in each breath of silence, “What am I feeling right now? What is my wife/child feeling? What is the best way to respond?” Confidence in Your Wife’s Ability to Know What She Really Needs A lot of men are confident that they can solve their wives’ problems, but that’s not as attractive to a woman as a man’s confidence in her. When she vents to you, ask her what she’s looking for. Does she want you to solve a problem or does she want you to listen? If she wants you to listen and you sit with her in discomfort instead of trying to fix the problem, you display confidence in her ability to know what she needs. Support her actual need—she’ll find that attractive. Confidence in Raising Your Kids Our wives value our ability to take care of our kids. It therefore beholds us to learn all the necessary tricks necessary for raising kids, including changing their nappies, drooping them to school or attending any important school days in our children’s school calendar and finally by helping your wife put proper rules and routines in place in your home.